And again, I know this from doing the research, especially in something like developmental psychology, little kids can't experience regret, cuz their brains haven't developed enough. What we don't understand is that what we don't understand, two things, really one is that this feeling of the discomfort that we get from regret or even the overall sensation of regret is one of the most common emotions that human beings experience regret is ubiquitous in the human experience. Well, I mean, it is undesirable in the sense that it makes us feel bad. Why did we see regret as such an undesirable emotion and as a weakness? I put it aside, took a couple months to do some early research and then wrote an entirely new book proposal and changed course in this big, big project, you know, in this space of about three months, right around now, when you and I are talking in 2019, I realize that I had a, a better, bigger, more meaningful idea than what I was working on. And so I was at actually working on an entirely different book. And that's a very interesting signal for a writer. And the surprise came when I mentioned this very sheepishly to people.Īnd instead of recoiling from this topic of regret, which many people do or George, I suspected many people would they instead leaned in, they wanted to talk about it. And when I looked back inevitably like many people, there were things that I wish I had done and things I wish I had, I hadn't done. I found myself to my surprise based on some life events and whatnot, realizing to my shock and horror that I had mileage on me and that I had room to look back in a way that I never had before. And I think that that was sort of the case here. You know, there's an old adage in, especially in behavioral science, among real scientists, that all research is research. And what got me here was the fact that I had regrets myself. It was an important book for me to write personally, it ended up being more important than I realized initially. Well, I mean, I think your instincts are right. And I would assume that's kind of like par for the course with writing a lot of books, but to just let us know, like what brought you to this topic? Why was this an important book for you to write? And you had shared after we had talked that you were kind of stuck and tried to figure out your way through this book. And you were actually in the early phases of writing your newest book about regret. I think it was a couple years ago, maybe at the beginning of the pandemic. Never thought about that, but I am resolutely on team dictionary.ĭan, when I spoke to you last, it was kind of a unique point. Night on the town or quiet evening at home. So Dan, we start these interviews with a set of lightning around questions. My latest book is the Power of Regret: How looking backward moves us forward. The Power of Regret, How Looking Backward Moves Us Forward by Dan Pink He also tells us how we can make better life decisions to avoid the most unforgiving of regrets. Four core regrets emerged that most people have, and Dan breaks each one down. In this episode, Dan Pink shares what he learned from his World Regret Survey that collected data from more than 16,000 people in 105 countries. ![]() And if we reckon with them in fresh and imaginative ways, we can enlist our regrets to make smarter decisions, perform better at work and school, and deepen our sense of meaning and purpose. That’s nonsense, even dangerous, says Dan Pink in his latest book The Power of Regret. “No regrets.” You’ve heard people proclaim it as a philosophy of life.
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